Community Culture [draft]
of the Heart-shaped life Circle
These Community Culture Guidelines are here to help us co-create a safe and sacred space together.
The aim of our Circle is to support and inspire each other in:
Following our heart;
Stepping into the power of our authentic self;
Creating meaningful, balanced and joyful lives in touch with Nature, Spirit and the Beauty of Everyday Moments,
so that we can:
Live our Purpose and Share our Gifts;
Thrive in Changing Times;
Be co-creators of a New and Better World.
saying yes to your dreams & purpose
By saying yes to the heart-shaped life circle, and by saying yes to the community guidelines and culture, you are really saying YES to your dreams. You say YES to bringing out your potential, living your purpose and why you came here to this planet at this time; to thrive, to share your gifts and make a difference.
I believe that many of the things you need to do to create your heart-shaped life are not rocket science, they are simple things that are enjoyable and make your life better. However, the world around us can be overwhelming, distracting and paralyzing. There is nothing more effective and helpful than a loving and supportive community of like-minded souls on a similar journey to stay engaged, excited and empowered to create your best life and be what you came here to be!
The key to success is your participation in the group process, your contributions to the conversations and your courage to show up and share. Saying YES to this group is really saying YES to yourself. You will get out of this group what you put into it multiplied many times.
At the same time we are sensitive people, the world around us affects us deeply and we are deep processors of experiences, thoughts and feelings. We need time off and time to recover from things. Many of us are also processing and releasing trauma in the special times we are living in right now, which can be intense. So we can’t always be there in the group and respond to everything. But our promise to each other is that we will keep coming back and turning up and be present for each other when we can. And it is also good to keep in mind that especially during challenging times, we want to be there for each other and you can ask for support or just share what you are going through, just to be seen, heard and held.
Posts don’t have to be perfect, they can be raw, messy, tear-filled and desperate too. The important thing is that we want to be there for each other, and say yes to each other. Yes, we are here together. And yes, everyone’s life, experiences and feelings matter to us as group.
a sacred & safe virtual space
To create the sacred container where positive change and transformation can happen for us, it’s good to remember that we are in a virtual space where we don’t look each other in the eyes and we aren’t physically together when we post & share vulnerable things with each other. We also don’t always have an immediate answer, idea or reply ready. And we don’t want anyone to feel forced to reply with something substantial when that doesn’t come naturally. To nonetheless help us create a safe virtual space where people feel heard, witnessed and acknowledged when sharing we can promise each other to:
- Be present in the group a couple of times per week to read the posts & comments of our fellow circle members when we feel emotionally and energetically able to do so;
- Respond to members’ posts that you have read with just a few words or short response; for example “Thank you for sharing ” or “I hear you” or “This makes me think” or “Well done for putting this down into a post” or by replying with a few icons. This doesn’t take a lot of time but can make huge difference for someone who feels vulnerable about sharing. It’s similar to a nod or supportive eye contact during a real life circle, even though nothing is said directly;
Other things that can help us connect on a deeper level with each other:
- Share from our own experiences with our own stories, by creating our own posts, or by responding to others’ posts, to help us dive deeper into the topic and bring out the group’s wisdom for all to benefit from;
- When feeling the nudge – we can ask questions in response to sharings. Questions can help us go deeper and get more clarity about what is going on, what is holding us back. It can lead to breakthroughs and new realizations. A question can sometimes be more powerful than any other response to help someone move forward.;
- Share from a personal perspective; I feel, I think, I experience… We all have unique perspectives and experiences in our lives, creating our own personal truths and our own unique reality. These are all important and valid. We can acknowledge all of these personal truths and create belonging and a space for them to co-exist by avoiding generalizations that might not resonate with others’ experiences.
some common sense ethics
- In general, to cheer people on, celebrate with them, and support them on their journey.
- To be respectful, kind and compassionate in our interactions with each other.